I know that when people think “flannel” they often think “lumberjack” or “grunge singer from the early 90s” …but in reality, this super soft and warm fabric is perfect for winter.

Fortunately there are ways to incorporate flannel shirts into your wardrobe in ways that don’t make you look like a grungy dude—or like you’re wearing pajamas.

One example is this flannel shirt. The ruffle trim and back shirring give it a feminine style—but of course it’s got all the sweet qualities of flannel. And it’s incredibly comfortable, too.

Another option is the flannel big shirt, which is perfect for days where you just want to wear something cozy. Still feminine—and big enough to wear over a more fitted t-shirt.

Shirts aren’t the only way to work flannel into your wardrobe. These twill pants are also soft flannel—but you would never guess by looking at them!

Ruffles are definitely a fall trend this year—they’ve been showing up on runways and are now making their way into everyday fashion. Sometimes when people hear ruffles they think way-too-frilly girly outfits. But that doesn’t need to be the case at all.

There are tons of ways to incorporate ruffles into your wardrobe.

In bags! Check out this fun ruffle snake bag that’s uber-fashionable. It’s also very exotic, and has pockets for all your goodies and a convenient snap closure.

In shoes! These ruffle booties add a great little flair to your outfit and are a wonderful way to incorporate a trend without going overboard.

In shirts! This ruffle-trim flannel shirt mixes boyfriend comfort with feminine fall style—so pretty much everything you could want in a shirt. And this dot ruffle blouse is also a great option.

In sleeves! Check out this ruffle-sleeved blouse or this ruffle-sleeved dress for another way to add some feminine flair to your outfit.